In college I remember learning that the responsibility to communicate a message is that of the communicator not the reciever. 90% of what I do is communication oriented and I realize that I failed miserably at communicating a message this past weekend...and it created quite a stir.
So I sent an email to Derek tonight apologizing for not taking the extra time to present my message in a way that would get it across without looking like I was personally attacking him and giving him the option of whether or not the email stayed on the blog.
I posted the email, along with my responses, because I wanted to get the message across that the world is very connected and anything you say or do has the potential to reach 1000's of people in a matter of seconds. Because of my pride and my sarcasm the message came across as me attacking Derek or trying to get revenge or hold him down. Not at all the what I was trying to do or communicate.
My thoughts - Nearly every wedding I go to I have a bridesmaid or groomsman come up to me and tell me how rude the photographer was at the last wedding they were at, I get voiemails from photographers screaming about this or that, and emails from people who pretty much say they hate me because I charge a lot of money. My friend Dane was even interupted during one of his talks at PartnerCon by somebody who just didn't know how to act in public. I think there is a big problem with how a lot of photographers interact with other people and because I live and work in this industry my hope is to see all of us change into being more likable people and I think if we are aware that what we say and do will have consequences and people will find out about it we will be more careful about saying things that we shouldn't.
So a couple of questions...
Question #1 - If somebody is intentionally hurting people or is just generally mean should we open it up for everyone to know about? I'm not talking about somebody making a mistake, we all make mistakes. Should we keep it a secret and allow them to continue on or bring it out in the open?
Question #2 - If you answered that we shouldn't bring it out in the open then give me a long term approach to how we will solve this problem in our industry. By long term I mean a solution that doesn't focus on changing that one person or that one problem but a solution that let's everyone in the future know that this sort of behavior is not ok.
Question #3 - If you answered that we should bring it out in the open then what steps need to happen before it's brought out in the open and how should it be presented to let everyone know to protect themself and avoid this person.
....and if there are other options through them in. I'm always up for conversation and I'm honestly seeking a solution because if we've gotta spend our lives in this industry let's at least strive to make it better.