Unfortunately every once in awhile I have to deal with situations that arise on OSP and in the photo world and sometimes I get some heat for the way I choose to handle them but I have always chosen to take the side of the community and to use everything as a learning experience for myself and for others.
So when I received an email last night about a quarl some people were having on OSP I decided to "go to the balcony" as William Ury describes in his book "Getting Past No" - which is a great book by the way! Ury talks all about conflict resolution and how to negotiate your way from confrontation to cooperation and the whole book is packed with valuable insight into how to approach difficult situations. Anyway...the idea of "going to the balcony means that you take some time away from the conflict situation and allow yourself to think through the issues without being distracted by the emotions...so I went to sleep and when I woke up I found this second email. I couldn't believe it - this is a super bummer that this person sent two emails 8 hours apart and didn't even bother to realize that maybe I was sleeping and that I might have 90 other nice emails flagged for response.
So I just want to encourage you all to take some time in your conflicts and "go to the balcony." ....because the number one rule in communication is that "you can't take it back." and once you say something to somebody the damage is done.
As I've always said - I don't expect everybody to agree but I do want everbody to realize the power of their words and treat each other with respect and love and approach their life with a fun lighthearted spirit. Life is too short to take ourself seriously.
Live - Learn - and move on! :)