Yesterday I had a wonderful conversation about expectations and the burden they can become and it reminded me of this post I wrote earlier this month but never published it but I think it's good so check it out.
Isn't it weird how if someone expects us to do something we feel
obligated to do it. Why is that! Email is the perfect example. When
someone emails us don't we feel like we have to email them back?
Weird! How many of you spend more time emailing than you want to? My guess is that that most of you are like me and you do. Why do you do that! You just said you don't want to! You do it because we've been trained to think we have to do what people expect of
us. I mean isn't it rude to not call somebody back when they leave
you a voicemail or email them back when they email you?
This was one of the hardest things I had to get used to and I
want to challenge you to think about it as well. Are you being
controlled by other people's expectations of you? Maybe in your life it's not email but it's something else. Whatever it is just know that you don't have to let this control you. I don't return the majority of my vm's and I certainly don't email
back even a fraction of the people who email me b/c if I did I would spent 10 hours a day typing emails!
I want my life to be about loving people and glorifying God. Now some of you are thinking ahhhh
come on DJ! That's just a lame thing to say so you can avoid the fact
that you're selfish...and I admit sometimes I am just being selfish (or lazy) but
personally I don't believe my life is meant to be spent behind the
computer and so I'm not gonna spend my life there whether somebody expects me to or
...because when it comes down to it I want to be your friend - not your pen
pal...and not on facebook. In real life! What a concept! I want
to see you and hug you and experience LIFE together!
So let's get OUT of our IN box and get into reality. There's a fullness to life that
just can't be experienced behind these silly screens and so if you're
spending more time behind the computer than with people face to face
try switching things up - see how it goes!